Acclaimed live polyamory dating show poly poly oxen free joins Poly Speed Dating to make Boston debut at Arts at the Armory on Thursday, August 6

After sold-out performances in New York City, San Francisco, Philadelphia, and Portland, Oregon, the national hit live dating show Poly Poly Oxen Free is making its Boston debut on Thursday, August 6 at Arts at the Armory. In a partnership with Poly Speed Dating there will be bonus fun: matching audience members on speed dates during intermission! Together, we are looking for you to either be on the show, or be in the audience. Audience members will have the option to have a date during intermission, as well. See below for links to apply or links for tickets.

What is Poly Poly Oxen Free?: Created and produced by Rose Oser, poly poly oxen free launched in 2024 and has proven to be a successful source of entertainment and legitimate connections. Each show features one star, “The Catch” who is searching for new loves with help from one of their existing partners. The partner serves as their wingperson pitching The Catch to the live audience via PowerPoint. The Catch then meets the “Poly Pool” of eligible contestants who must complete a series of challenges to woo The Catch.

Unlike traditional dating shows, poly poly oxen free ends with the possibility for multiple winners. In theory, everyone in the Poly Pool can land a date with the Catch– but will they? 

What does this have to do with speed dating?: The Boston performance will include a special partnership with us, Poly Speed Dating. Upon arriving at the theater, audience members will be invited to complete a brief online compatibility survey. Using our special platform, participating audience members will be paired with someone in attendance for a speed date during intermission, giving everyone the opportunity to find love.

Why here, why now?: “Somerville was the first city in the U.S. to legally recognize polyamorous domestic partnerships, and it feels right to finally bring the show here” said Rose Oser, creator and producer of Poly Poly Oxen Free. “I’m especially excited to partner with Poly Speed Dating because they have nurtured deep connections to the Boston poly community and they have developed a really thoughtful tool for matching poly people.”

“In our mission to bring awesome dating to more people, the opportunity to have a bit of that energy in the middle of poly poly oxen free just felt like synergistic magic,” says Luke, one of the Poly Speed Dating organizers. “We are extremely excited to tweak our software to this new and interesting context, and can’t wait to see how it all turns out.”

Whether attendees identify as polyamorous, poly-curious, monogamous, or whatever, Poly Poly Oxen Free offers an evening of humor, vulnerability, and authentic human connection.

Event Details
Poly Poly Oxen Free
Thursday, August 6
Arts at the Armory
Somerville, Massachusetts

Doing the the intermission date is strictly optional.

To apply to be on the show: <click on this link>
For tickets and additional information: <click on this link>
Questions, contact Rose Oser @ rose.polypolyoxenfree@gmail.com


ABOUT poly poly oxen free: poly poly oxen free is a live dating show, created and hosted by Rose Oser, in which the contestant’s current partner helps them find new loves. Follow @polypolyoxenfree on Instagram for future show dates and a link to the application form to apply to get on stage. 

Register now for Love, Multiplied: Boston-Area Poly Speed Dating on April 30th, 2026

We are very excited to announce that Love, Multiplied: Boston-Area Poly Speed Dating is happening on April 30th at the Arts at the Armory in Somerville, MA.  Join us for an evening of meeting and connecting with other ethically non-monogamous people.

Our community spans from Boston and the surrounding areas to New Hampshire, Rhode Island, and central MA. Whether you’re dating as an individual or a group, this event offers a safe and inclusive space to meet new people and spark connections. With a structured format designed to maximize meaningful interactions, you’ll have the opportunity to engage in quick, fun conversations with a variety of potential partners. Expand your social circle, explore new connections, and, who knows? You might just find those special someones.

Don’t miss out – reserve your spot now and let the sparks fly!  You must register in advance to attend. 

Your registration options are:

INDIVIDUAL  💜  GROUP  💜  RETURNING DATER(S)

Event Details:

  • Thursday, April 30th, 2026.
  • Doors open at 6:00pm.  You must be present at 7:00pm at the latest (but please show up earlier if possible).
  • We will be charging $35, and expect to sell out.  If we don’t, door price will be $50. If ticket prices are too steep for you, please contact us, as this is designed to be an inclusive event. Also, tickets are 50% off for anyone under 25 or over 60.
  • We have a code of conduct. You must read it: https://polyspeeddating.com/code-of-conduct/
  • There will be some food and drink (with and without booze). Pay bar.
  • The event will be held at Arts at the Armory, 191 Highland Avenue, Somerville, MA
  • This space and event is accessible.  There is limited parking. Taking the Green Line to Magoun Square, or the Red Line to Davis Square and walking up Highland is strongly recommended.  (There are also regular buses.)

This is a fundraiser to support and promote various anti-racist activities in the Boston area and beyond.  We are constantly looking for organizations, ideally with connections to the broader non-monogamous community, engaged with anti-racist work. If you know of any doing good work, please let us know.

Please remember we are working on an ancient system, meaning bugs may occur. Let us know if things are weird. Want to read more about what the heck all of this is about? Check out our blog post on what actually happens at poly speed dating.

This is a fully volunteer-run enterprise–let us know if something is wrong, but have compassion.

Register now for Poly in Bloom: Boston-Area Poly Speed Dating on June 9th

We are very excited to announce that Poly in Bloom: Boston-Area Poly Speed Dating is happening on June 9th at the Arts at the Armory in Somerville, MA.  Join us for an evening of meeting and connecting with other ethically non-monogamous people.

Our community spans from Boston and the surrounding areas to New Hampshire, Rhode Island, and central MA. Whether you’re dating as an individual or a group, this event offers a safe and inclusive space to meet like-minded individuals. With a structured format designed to maximize meaningful interactions, you’ll have the opportunity to engage in quick, fun conversations with a variety of potential partners. Expand your social circle, explore new connections, and who knows? You might just find that special someone(s).

Don’t miss out – reserve your spot now and let the sparks fly!  You must register in advance to attend. 

Your registration options are:

INDIVIDUAL  * GROUP  * RETURNING DATER(S)

Event Details:

  • Monday, June 9th, 2025.
  • Doors open at 6:00pm.  You must be present at 7:00pm at the latest (but please show up earlier if possible).
  • We will be charging $30, and expect to sell out.  If we don’t, door price will be $50. If ticket prices are too steep for you, please contact us, as this is designed to be an inclusive event.
  • We have a code of conduct. You must read it: https://polyspeeddating.com/code-of-conduct/
  • There will be some food and drink (with and without booze). Pay bar.
  • The event will be held at Arts at the Armory, 191 Highland Avenue, Somerville, MA
  • This space and event is accessible.  There is limited parking. Taking the Green Line to Magoun Square, or the Red Line to Davis Square and walking up Highland is strongly recommended.  (There are also regular buses.)
  • This is a fundraiser to support and promote various anti-racist activities in the Boston area and beyond.
  • We are constantly looking for organizations, ideally with connections to the broader non-monogamous community, engaged with anti-racist work. If you know of any doing good work, please let us know.

Please remember we are working on an ancient system, meaning bugs may occur. Let us know if things are weird. Want to read more about what the heck all of this is about? Check out our blog post on what actually happens at poly speed dating.

Next event: June 9, 2025

Remember Poly Speed Dating?  Apparently our “twice a year” goal means a “once a year” reality. Spring is a thing, and with it comes that frisky feeling.

We are finalizing the last details and getting our registration site up, but we wanted to send out a “save the date” email for June 9th, with doors at 6:30pm in Somerville as soon as we could.  We will (fingers crossed) launch registration in a couple of weeks, so keep a look out for that email.

If you know of people interested, then have them sign up for our (very, very low traffic) email list at https://polyspeeddating.us12.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=56d6c94f15d73216445f488a3&id=a207b0249f

A reminder: everything we do is incredibly old school. Our systems work, but barely.  We don’t do fancy.  I mean, just look at this web page!

Also, we received an event notice for a panel and mixer on May 12th at the Aeronaut Brewery, Somerville. Details here: https://www.resonancematch.com/events/mixer-for-the-enm-community

Registration for June 20th event now open!

We are pleased to announce we are open for registration!

Your registration options are:

INDIVIDUAL  * GROUP  * RETURNING DATER(S)

Event Details:

  • Thursday, June 20th, 2024 from 6:30-10:00 p.m.
  • Doors open at 6:00pm, and we hope to start dating at 8pm.  You must be present at 7:00pm at the latest (but please show up earlier if possible).
  • We will be charging $30, and expect to sell out.  If we don’t, door price will be $50. If ticket prices are too steep for you, please contact us as this is designed to be an inclusive event.
  • We have a code of conduct. You must read it: https://polyspeeddating.com/code-of-conduct/
  • There will be some food and drink (with and without booze). Pay bar.
  • The event will be held at Arts at the Armory, 191 Highland Avenue, Somerville, MA
  • This space is accessible (accessibility card ideally forthcoming).  There is limited parking. Taking the Green Line to Magoun Square, or the Red Line to Davis Square and walking up Highland is strongly recommended.  (There are also regular buses.)
  • This is a fundraiser to support and promote various anti-racist activities in the Boston area and beyond.
  • We are constantly looking for organizations, ideally with connections to the broader non-monogamous community, engaged with anti-racist work. If you know of any doing good work, please let us know.

Please remember we are working on an ancient system, meaning bugs may occur. Let us know if things are weird.

Want to read more about what the heck all of this is about? Check out our blog post on what actually happens at poly speed dating.

Save the date for June 20, 2024

After quite a long hiatus, we are very excited to announce that Poly Speed Dating is happening June 20th at the Armory in Somerville, MA.  We will open registration in a few weeks, but we wanted to let you know in advance so you can plan.

Please note: We will announce registration on our mailing list when we have started it. If you have questions you can email info@polyspeeddating.com. You can join the mailing list using the link on the right hand side of this page.

The salient details so far:
Doors will open at 6:30pm, and we hope to start dating at 8pm.  You must be present at 7:15pm at the latest (but please show up earlier if possible).
We will be charging $30, and expect to sell out.  If we don’t, door price will be $50.
Some food will be provided. There will be a pay bar. The event will run until around 10 or 10:30pm.
Arts at the Armory is located at 191 Highland Ave, Somerville, MA 02143
Parking is limited.

This is an entirely volunteer operation. No one makes money and the organizers are not paid for their time. We run these events to build community, and any extra funds raised are donated to anti-racist non-profit organizations that we find inspiring.


DISCLAIMERS: We acknowledge that COVID is still a risk factor in our society, and therefore that attending an event such as this is not without risk. We will not be requiring masking, as masking may overly impair people’s ability to communicate in what is likely to be a loud environment. We are going to cap our event, and we reserved all parts of the Armory we could, to attempt to spread people out as much as possible to make mask wearing more feasible and to “thin the air,” so to speak. The logistics of an outdoor event were beyond our small group of volunteers at this time.  We ask you all to remember that Poly Speed Dating is an enterprise that is purely volunteer run, and is generally cash negative. Having an event at all seemed preferable to not, so here we are.

Please note that we are using the legacy code from many years ago, and the internet has marched on since then. If low tech solutions and archaic websites distress you, then perhaps this is not the service for you.

Our mailing list is in tatters.  Please tell your friends and spread the word.

PSD and COVID: What do you want to see happen?

It has been a long time! We are in the process of planning another speed dating event, and the first step is ascertaining what kind of event, if any, people would want to attend. If you are interested in attending a Polyam Speed Dating event, please read this message and then fill out a short survey so we know what you would like to see happen!

In particular, we are trying to weigh the following different trade-offs that we have identified:

First, there is mask wearing. On the one hand, hearing your speed date talk can already be difficult at PSD events, and masks make that harder. Masks also diminish the non-verbal communication that many people do with their faces. On the other hand, masks can reduce the risk of COVID transmission.

Another factor is vaccination. Some events these days expect or verify that all participants are vaccinated against COVID, but such verification can slow down an event’s registration process or increase the logistical burden of running an event. It may also be exclusionary against some people.

Finally, rapid tests for COVID are widely used to decrease the chance of someone who is contagious being present at an event, but rapid tests would be an added cost for participants, and verification of such tests would likely slow down registration.

The final factor is having the event outside vs. inside. While outside would be better for COVID mitigation, doing so could pose some logistical challenges, such as technology, bathroom access, vulnerability to the weather, and potentially even finding a venue.

So, if you have gotten this far, please click on the following link and give us your thoughts: https://forms.gle/dwfD4ZaQQp8gEx1D9

The Network/La Red Domestic Violence Hotline

TNLR hotline

During the current COVID-19 crisis, The Network/La Red’s hotline is still open 24/7. It’s a free and confidential resource for survivors of partner abuse. The Network/La Red is a survivor-led, social justice organization that works to end partner abuse in lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, SM, polyamorous, and queer communities. Rooted in anti-oppression principles, our work aims to create a world where all people are free from oppression. We strengthen our communities through organizing, education, and the provision of support services.

Hotline / Línea de crisis: (800) 832-1901

Durante la crisis del COVID-19, la línea de crisis de The Network/La Red esta disponible 24/7. Es un recurso gratuito y confidencial para sobrevivientes de abuso de pareja. The Network/La Red es una organización de justicia social dirigida por sobrevivientes que trabaja para eliminar el abuso de pareja en las comunidades lesbianas, gay, bisexuales, transgénero, SM, poliamorosas y cuir. Arraigado en los principios de la antiopresión, nuestro trabajo trata de crear un mundo donde todas las personas sean libres de la opresión. Fortalecemos a nuestras comunidades a través de la organización, la educación y la provisión de servicios de apoyo.

Boston Speed Dating September 2, 2019

We are pleased to announce a speed dating event coming up on Monday, September 2nd (Labor Day). In our efforts to build community, we are trying out a few new things this round. Read more below.

Your registration options are:

INDIVIDUAL  * GROUP  * RETURNING DATER(S)

Event Details:

  • Monday, September 2nd, 2019 from 5-9:30 p.m.
  • The event will be held at The Armory, 191 Highland Avenue, Somerville, MA
  • $18.00 preregistration, $25.00 at the door. But no person will be turned away for lack of funds – please contact us!
  • See our accessibility placard for accessibility info–and email if you have further questions.
  • There is limited parking. Taking the T to Davis Square and walking up Highland is strongly recommended. (There are also regular buses.)
  • Check-in starts at 5 p.m.  You must be there by 6:15 p.m.
  • There will be food and drink (with and without booze). Pay bar.
  • We are constantly looking for organizations, ideally with connections to the broader non-monogamous community, engaged with anti-racist work (e.g., The Network/la Red). If you know of any doing good work, please let us know.

New affinity question on the form
Based on some discussion resulting from our Race and Poly house party awhile back, we are adding a new registration question specifically to benefit people of color.  It is “I am a person of color interested in being matched with other people of color for this event.” This will not break other matches, it simply increases the chance of a pre-existing match between two people who check off this box.  We look forward to hearing what people think of this new addition.

Call for Art!
For this event, we are trying to put together an art show. In particular we are interested in art that represents different experiences and backgrounds. We are especially looking for artists of color who have work that is about their experiences with nonmonogamy (even obliquely). We will likely be limiting ourselves to wall art, given space constraints, but are open to other ideas. If interested, please send us three images of your art and a short self-description.

Social Media
We are not good at social media. But perhaps that will change. If you want to follow us on Twitter, you can: see @bostonPSD (for Boston local stuff, such as open reg announcements) and @polyspeeddating (for the full world-wide stuff, in theory).