Join us for a post-Halloween PSD event!

We are pleased to announce a speed dating event coming up on Friday, November 2nd. Last time rocked; high on that energy, your PSD organizers decided to actually try and run more than one in a calendar year! As with last time, this is a fundraiser to support and promote various anti-racist activities in the Boston area and beyond.

Your registration options are:


Event Details:

  • Friday, November 2nd, 2018 from 6-10:00 p.m.
  • The event will be held at The Armory,191 Highland Avenue, Somerville, MA
  • $18.00 preregistration, $25.00 at the door. But no person will be turned away for lack of funds – please contact us!
  • This space is accessible (accessibility card ideally forthcoming).  There is limited parking. Taking the T to Davis Square and walking up Highland is strongly recommended.  (There are also regular buses.)
  • Check-in starts at 6 p.m.  You must be there by 7 p.m.
  • There will be food and drink (with and without booze). Pay bar.
  • We are constantly looking for organizations, ideally with connections to the broader non-monogamous community, engaged with anti-racist work (e.g., The Network/la Red). If you know of any doing good work, please let us know.

Attire and costumes:
As usual, we expect people to dress up if they so desire. Heck, it is close to Halloween so go nuts if you want to!  Costumes are super welcome, but be sure to allow for visibility, mobility, and seating ability. Also, if people can’t see your face at all, they might not check yes for a date.  Think about whether you want to be creepy or not, in other words. More masquerade ball, less zombie apocalypse — or just come as your fabulous selves.

Regardless, we will supply the candy.

Note: We fully expect a mix of both costumed and not. Both are awesome ways for you to attend.


Armory event wrap-up

At our last event we raised $2061.89  and got the word out about several organizations that we think are doing excellent work. We were helped by our food vendor, Chilacates in JP, who gave us a discount to support our fundraising. Thank you Chilacates! And also the Armory in Somerville, who gave us a discount on the venue to again support our fundraising efforts.

And a tremendous final thank-you to our greeters and volunteers who really made the event happen by making signs, checking in people, making the info sheets, obtaining supplies, cleaning up, entering data, and so much more.

We also wanted to encourage you to continue to track what our sponsored organizations are up to, and to continue to support them (with money or time) as best you can. See our Nonprofit sheets on the four organizations, which are

The Network/la Red
Donate here:
We raised: $490.66

Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP)
Donate here:
(If you like you can tag your donation as targeting their new project working explicitly on anti-racism.)
We raised: $763.16

Black and Pink
Donate here:
(There are also many ways to get involved, including being a pen pal to support incarcerated persons.)
We raised: $451.07

White People Challenging Racism (WPCR), supported by Community Change, Inc.
Donate here:
(CCI is the umbrella organization that does a variety of work. As you donate, you can tag your money for WPCR.)
We raised: $357.00

We are now going through the feedback you all had for the event. We will post updates, plans, and reflections on our blog. Be sure to stay connected with us, as we are now planning an event for next October (mailing list link at right).



June 20th event officially sold out!

We had to close registration to make sure we could handle the crowds!  It will be our biggest Boston area event ever, so wish us luck.

If you missed the deadline, please join our mailing list (link at right) to hear about future events. We will not sell your email and we will only email you rarely (way less than 1 email per month, on average).

Last call for our Poly Speed Dating event on June 20th!

Due to overwhelming response (250 people registered), for the first time ever we are going to close registration before the event and not allow walk-ins at all. If you have been meaning to sign up, do so now. We will close registration on Tuesday, 12pm (high noon).

We are formalizing our code of conduct, details here.  We are also formalizing our position on missing stairs (sexual predators known to a community) and what to do about them, which we will post soon.

Also, if you have not heard, we have had to restrict registration for some demographic groups (in particular, those not looking for men who need their dates to be looking for men).  Please read this blog post for more on this (including the reasons why).

Registration going strong, but some space left

In a week we have reached 144 people registered, and registrations are still coming in. Apparently there was some pent up demand. But our space is large, and we would love to have even more people.  More people = better matches for all.

So please spread the word, especially to corners of the non-monogamous world that our missives may not have reached.

We have also, to make sure the event serves everyone as well as possible, had to start restricting registration for those who are only looking for women who are open to men (broadly defined). This is to ensure that, in particular, pansexual and bisexual daters get a good mix of genders in their dating pool. If you are such a person, you can still come!  You just need a gender-balance companion to also register.  Further details about all of this on this page.

And if you haven’t registered, please register now!


See details of event on this post.

Finally, a Boston Speed Dating Event!

We are finally getting our acts together to run a Poly Speed Dating event this June 20th (a Wednesday) at the Armory in Somerville.  This could be the last one ever, or the last one for a year, or the last one for a month.  Who knows?  Our advice: if you are interested in an experience unlike almost any other, don’t wait but register now!

We are operating on a fairly short time frame and so details will be posted as we acquire them, but nonetheless registration is open  Your registration options are:


Event Details:

  • Wednesday, June 20 from 6-9:30 p.m.
  • The event will be held at The Armory, 191 Highland Avenue, Somerville, MA
  • $18.00 preregistration, $25.00 at the door. But no person will be turned away for lack of funds – please contact us!
  • This space is accessible (accessibility card ideally forthcoming).  There is limited parking.  Taking the T to Davis Square and walking up Highland is strongly recommended.  (There are also regular buses.)
  • Check-in starts at 6 p.m.  You must be there by 7 p.m.
  • There will be food and drink. Pay bar.
  • We will be donating any profits to an anti-racist organization yet to be determined, ideally one that also has connections to the broader non-monogamous community.  (E.g., The Network/la Red.)  All suggestions welcome.



Further commentary for your reading pleasure: We have pulled the system from the ashes of time and have added a certain amount of spit and scotch tape.  Please ignore the smoke.  Also please forgive any rough edges as this evolves. We are not pretending to be professionals but instead are volunteering our time to try and make the world a better place (and because it is fun).  While we tried to have another round in JP or surrounds, we did not find a venue there, so here we are in Somerville.

We are still (slowly) porting everything over to various services (in particular Digital Ocean to host DateWrangler(tm), MailChimp for mailing lists, PoBox to send email, to host our static site, bitbucket to version control the codebase).  These systems can do weird things when stuck together.  Why are we doing this?  The more streamlined the system, the easier it is to run events without undue suffering.  This means more events.  The codebase (all in Python & Django) needs help; we are looking for those who want to help.  Have skills?  Please email us.  All payment will be in beer or equivalent.


Boston Poly Speed Dating Happening Again!

We have just booked our next venue for Saturday, June 3rd, 2017, at Spontaneous Celebrations in Jamaica Plain.  Yes, we have finally crossed the river!

Location is 45 Danforth Street.  Doors open at 6:00pm for food and registration.  Doors close at 7:30pm with dating beginning at 8:00.  (This is all tentative—we are still working out some details).

There will be a full (pay) bar and some snacks.

$16 per person if you pre-register, $25 at the door, but each registration comes with a ticket good for a $6 discount on food or drink.

No person turned away for lack of funds–please contact us!

We will post the registration link as soon as we get our site up.  Meanwhile, join our mailing list (link) to keep apprised.