And they said poly speed dating is “speed dating with a turbo charge of inclusivity.” Aw, shucks. That’s what we are going for!
Our last event had 164 people ranging from the 20s to 60s in age. Around 20% were looking for primary partners, 30% were open to it, and the rest were looking for something else. 70% identify as kinky, one way or the other. The words people used to help fine-tune their matches reflect the great range we had at the event. People wanted to connect on fiber-arts, fire-spinning, or scuba-diving. People were democrats, conservatives, anti-fascists. We had film-buffs, ice-climbers, and salsa-dancers. Various forms of play were mentioned in all sorts of flavors. Adjectives abounded: silly, sober, smart-ass. There were nearly a thousand different tags used.
Not only are our events about connecting people to people, but they are also about connecting people to nonprofits that we want to support in our communities. We invite our selected organizations to our events to table and do outreach, and then give any profits to these organizations, partially divided up by how daters “vote.” So far we have focused on nonprofits engaged in anti-racist work and who ideally also connect to our wider non-monogamous communities.
At our last event we raised $1085 for four distinct organizations that we think are doing excellent work. This was partially supported by the Armory in Somerville, who gave us a discount on the venue to support our fundraising efforts. We encourage all to continue to track what our sponsored organizations are up to, and to continue to support them (with money or time) as best you can. The four organizations for this round are:
The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (http://www.thecsph.org/)
Donate here: http://www.thecsph.org/donate/
(You can tag their donations to various anti-racist programs they are working on, if you like.)
We are pleased to announce a speed dating event coming up on Friday, November 2nd. Last time rocked; high on that energy, your PSD organizers decided to actually try and run more than one in a calendar year! As with last time, this is a fundraiser to support and promote various anti-racist activities in the Boston area and beyond.
Your registration options are:
Attire and costumes:
As usual, we expect people to dress up if they so desire. Heck, it is close to Halloween so go nuts if you want to! Costumes are super welcome, but be sure to allow for visibility, mobility, and seating ability. Also, if people can’t see your face at all, they might not check yes for a date. Think about whether you want to be creepy or not, in other words. More masquerade ball, less zombie apocalypse — or just come as your fabulous selves.
Regardless, we will supply the candy.
Note: We fully expect a mix of both costumed and not. Both are awesome ways for you to attend.
At our last event we raised $2061.89 and got the word out about several organizations that we think are doing excellent work. We were helped by our food vendor, Chilacates in JP, who gave us a discount to support our fundraising. Thank you Chilacates! And also the Armory in Somerville, who gave us a discount on the venue to again support our fundraising efforts.
And a tremendous final thank-you to our greeters and volunteers who really made the event happen by making signs, checking in people, making the info sheets, obtaining supplies, cleaning up, entering data, and so much more.
We also wanted to encourage you to continue to track what our sponsored organizations are up to, and to continue to support them (with money or time) as best you can. See our Nonprofit sheets on the four organizations, which are
Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP)
Donate here: http://www.new.swopusa.org/donations-2/
(If you like you can tag your donation as targeting their new project working explicitly on anti-racism.)
We raised: $763.16
Black and Pink
Donate here: https://secure.actblue.com/contribute/page/blackandpink
(There are also many ways to get involved, including being a pen pal to support incarcerated persons.)
We raised: $451.07
White People Challenging Racism (WPCR), supported by Community Change, Inc.
Donate here: https://donatenow.networkforgood.org/119038?code=CCI+General
(CCI is the umbrella organization that does a variety of work. As you donate, you can tag your money for WPCR.)
We raised: $357.00
We are now going through the feedback you all had for the event. We will post updates, plans, and reflections on our blog. Be sure to stay connected with us, as we are now planning an event for next October (mailing list link at right).
We had to close registration to make sure we could handle the crowds! It will be our biggest Boston area event ever, so wish us luck.
If you missed the deadline, please join our mailing list (link at right) to hear about future events. We will not sell your email and we will only email you rarely (way less than 1 email per month, on average).
Due to overwhelming response (250 people registered), for the first time ever we are going to close registration before the event and not allow walk-ins at all. If you have been meaning to sign up, do so now. We will close registration on Tuesday, 12pm (high noon).
We are formalizing our code of conduct, details here. We are also formalizing our position on missing stairs (sexual predators known to a community) and what to do about them, which we will post soon.
Also, if you have not heard, we have had to restrict registration for some demographic groups (in particular, those not looking for men who need their dates to be looking for men). Please read this blog post for more on this (including the reasons why).
In a week we have reached 144 people registered, and registrations are still coming in. Apparently there was some pent up demand. But our space is large, and we would love to have even more people. More people = better matches for all.
So please spread the word, especially to corners of the non-monogamous world that our missives may not have reached.
We have also, to make sure the event serves everyone as well as possible, had to start restricting registration for those who are only looking for women who are open to men (broadly defined). This is to ensure that, in particular, pansexual and bisexual daters get a good mix of genders in their dating pool. If you are such a person, you can still come! You just need a gender-balance companion to also register. Further details about all of this on this page.
And if you haven’t registered, please register now!
See details of event on this post.